Now this is absolutely beautiful. I’ve just stumbled across some poetry at Nerve, a piece by Carissa Neff called My Mother’s Penis. It is an “adult” poem, of course, so kindly don’t click through if you’re under 18. (Go to Scarleteen instead, mmkay?)

Via my mother: A couple in Canada wound up arrested and embarrassed when a guy called 911 (I didn’t realize they have 911 in Canada) to report a woman had been abducted. Sure enough, the dispatched SWAT team found her tied up naked in the back of a car…but she was just “role-playing.”

Not to admit too much about myself here, but I can tell you right off that this was really stupid. The trick with this kind of thing is don’t get caught! Keep that kind of stuff in your house or your local kink club, people. Involving strangers and the police is not the way to go. What did he do, drag her out to his car stark naked? That’s what coats are for! You cover up until you are out of sight of people who would be freaked out by this kind of thing. I also have to question the fact that she was 17. I know this was in Canada, but I kind of doubt she should be getting into this kind of thing at that age, with a guy probably a few years older than she is. Again, I don’t want to make too many personal references, but this is really the kind of thing that should wait for the age of majority.

While browsing Cliterati’s links section, I came across a couple of sites that looked rather amusing. All About My Vagina and All About My Penis are detailed examinations of those body parts and the functions and feelings associated with each. Both sites are well-written, humorous, and informative; more topics are covered than I would have thought to ask, and yet it’s all stuff I’m happy to learn about. They’re not written by the same person (the vagina site came first), but both use simple and clear designs - the focus is definitely on content. I consider these sites recommended reading for just about anybody, regardless of gender and/or orientation.

• Upgrade to MT 2.51.
• Make the silly codes page.
• Finish cleaning ODP bookmarks.
• Make DC categories match template.

Caitlin mentioned that one of the UN weapons inspectors is being raked over the coals for his involvement in the DC-area BDSM community. I wish society would grow up and recognize that sexual preferences do not impact a person’s ability to do their job. If a man wants to engage in certain consensual activities, he should be allowed to without having to submit a letter of resignation. Thank goodness Blix declined it.

I think that if I were going to buy a membership to a porn site, DarkPlay.net would be it. I am pretty sure this picture shows a tattoo gun being applied to inner labia. (Ouch!) Besides, I could get a 25% discount for being an OOB subscriber, plus I’d get access to other sites in the Cyber Dyke network.

Argh! You’d think a site that goes by the name teenadvice.org would have accurate information, but you’d be wrong. In an undated piece entitled Did I Lose my Virginity?, a 15-year-old girl asks if fooling around with a female friend means she’s a lesbian and no longer a virgin. Her letter ends “Please Help! Does this mean I’m a lesbian? I am so disapointed. I had always dreamed of losing my virginity on my wedding night, not to my best friend!” so she’s obviously not a sex-savvy young woman - which is why she’s looking for advice, right?

There are two responses to her letter. The second one is very good, it tells the girl not to freak out and that what she did is normal. There are good explanations and sympathetic statements. The first answer, unfortunately, is total crap. I’ve cut-and-pasted part of it here, so all spellings are the original author’s.

You haven’t lost your virginity. What you both did was masturbate and fingering someone it is hard to broke someone’s hymen. Just because you’ve had an orgasm doesn’t mean you’re not a virgin anymore. You’re hymen is still intact, and that is usually what means you’re a virgin. Masturbation doesn’t take one’s virginity away unless you put inside yourself an object bigger and thicker than fingers.

What the fuck?! This is totally, completely, and entirely not true. Yuck! The rest of that response is slightly better, but not much.

Comments on this entry are closed. I am not qualified as a counselor, and anyone looking for help or answers to questions should talk to a parent, doctor, teacher, or another adult you trust. For more information, you can also visit Scarleteen and Go Ask Alice.
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This isn’t really ready for prime-time (read: the Dykewrite blog), so I figured I’d post it here. My new focus there is on sexuality, so don’t read on if you don’t want to hear me talk about porn. It’s also not done, so it sort of ends abruptly and isn’t well-thought-out.
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My first post to Dykewrite went over pretty well, I guess. A couple of the women said they don’t like porn at all, but some others have indicated they’ll answer it. I’m smiling all over because of Tracy’s comment:

My God, Meredith…you’ve done DykeWrite a wonderful service by just stringing together a few sentences with your powerful prose. I scrolled through this site today and said to Sorrento, “Jesus, there’s some good shit on DykeWrite today.” And there is. Brava, women. Brava!

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I can now honestly say that I went outside today. I took the kitchen trash out through the garage and put it in the trash can. That may be the extent of my outdoor time for a while! Maybe when A gets home, if she hasn’t eaten (she will have, I’m fooling myself) I will take the laptop down to the kitchen and sit there for a while as she makes dinner. Right now I’m watching Mallrats on USA, and they just changed the line “fly, fatass, fly!” to “fly, fatso, fly!” Somehow the latter seems more offensive than the former. (I can sometimes hear the dog over the movie.) It’s pretty warm with this laptop on my lap, even though I’ve taken off my sweatpants. Only 13 hours to go!

I hit a snag in the Sex Code - the author recommends using the 500-point test to have uniformity among everybody’s Sex Codes. I don’t have time for that, though, so I just did the original 100-point test (again) and ignored the fact that it isn’t omnisexual. But here it is anyway - don’t decode it if you don’t want to know!
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After reading both Gaia’s post about sapiosexuality and then some discussion about the word, I’m wondering if an Internet meme could get transferred into common usage. I’ve never heard any other terms that fit that definition, but it seems like a valid idea.