respect yourself
It would appear that some clarification is in order. Somebody I thought wasn’t even interested in me anymore and didn’t read my blog anymore said that she “is deeply saddened by the passing of Prop 8, but does not accept the bigotry directed toward her as a newly engaged straight person.” (I assume this was in reference to last night’s post, but I don’t know if she actually read that or if it’s coincidental.)
First of all, let me say that “bigotry” is not what I was expressing yesterday. That is called “jealousy.” I have never said that straight people shouldn’t get married, only that I hate hearing about it because I am jealous. I think it would be really nice if straight people waited to get married until gay marriage was legal, but that’s probably unrealistic. I am jealous, not bigoted.
I am not anti-straight people. Some of my best friends are straight people. I am a teensy bit anti-straight people getting married, but not much. I am anti-hearing about your wedding because it makes me cranky and bitter that I can’t marry the woman I’ve been with for almost 11 years. And this doesn’t even mean that you shouldn’t talk about it or tell me about it or whatever. It just means that it makes me bitchy. Okay? Thank you.
Added: Turns out she wasn’t responding to me. She’s having conversations with other people instead. I was right, she doesn’t follow me anymore. It was just really crazy timing, I guess.
3 Responses for "Clarification"
You’re entitled to feel however you want to feel about Prop 8, about straight marriage, about gay marriage, etc. Hell, I wouldn’t begrudge you if you hated straight people for Prop 8’s passing. I’m in a straight relationship and I hate straight people for it!
As much as I do want you and your wife to get married legally in this country, I would never say to you (or any other gay couple) “I know how you feel.” That’s condescending and downright asshole-y. What I CAN say is that I understand your jealousy and vitriol and would never consider it bigotry. =)
Love all around,
Nina.
really love your blog
and what’s up with the wolfie, what’s that refer too?
I really can’t believe Prop 8 passed in Cali, I’m quite appaled in fact. I am straight, and married, and live in Mass. I know a few gay couples that are married, and it doesn’t cheapen or otherwise affect my marriage in any way. I really don’t see what, beyond religious grounds, there can possibly be for keeping two people from getting married. And speakign of Religion, Gay marriage has been legal in Mass for four years now, and rather than being stricken down by God, we actually have one of the best economy’s in the country while the bible belt is in deep recession. just saying…
However, banning things we don’t like, or even understand, seems to be the norm here in America. Don’t like smoking? Vote to get it banned. Don’t like guns? Take them away. Vegitarian? Picket McDonalds. Maybe if we all started working to enhance each others’ liberties we’d all be happier. Otherwise the day is going to come when everything anyone wants to do is illegal because someone else doesn’t believe they should be doing it.
On another note, I found this blog through your site on Flickr. I was looking up Corsets as my wife is buying one. Anyway, I’ve read through your blog and think you’re quite interesting. I’d like to speak with you more if you’re interested. I also do have a few questions on corsetting if you wouldn’t mind. Shoot me an e-mail.
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