I asked to be interviewed by kgola and here are the results! My earlier offer to interview others still stands - just post a comment. These questions are partly about sex, so my parents should probably look the other way…

1. When did you discover your sexuality/when did you come out?

I think I knew I was at least bisexual during my sophomore year in high school, so around age 13 or 14. I figured out I was lesbian during my freshman year of college, when I met and started dating my wife. I had fooled around with two boys prior to this point, but the emotional connection with my girlfriend was so much stronger that I realized that was what I was really looking for. I came out to my parents after I had been living with my girlfriend for a few months, but I never needed to come out to anybody else, really - I was always already out when I met people.

2. What do you think is the most challenging thing being an interpreter?

Keeping my mouth shut! Seriously, I don’t normally have a lot to say, but I do work in an IT department and I have experience with computers. When one of my clients is struggling to understand something and I already know the answer, it is so hard to not feed it to them so the job gets done faster. This happens in other areas too, not just computers - a deaf client was discussing interpreter services at one point, so obviously I knew the answer because I know what services we provide, but I couldn’t say anything!

3. Casual Sex or Committed Sex only?

I’ve never actually had casual sex, really. I prefer committed sex because I’ve been in a committed relationship for eight years, and I’m not interested in sleeping with somebody else. I flirt sometimes (okay, maybe a lot), but never seriously, because I don’t want to go anywhere beyond flirting.

4. How do you identify?

I usually identify as a queer dyke. The word “lesbian” sounds funny to me - “dyke” is a funny word too, but it fits better than anything else. I use “queer” in front of it simply because I am perfectly capable of finding men physically attractive - a lot of people would insist that makes me bisexual, but it doesn’t. I’m a dyke, I just think guys can be hot too - but I wouldn’t be likely to have a relationship with one. I’m also beginning to identify as a leathergirl. I used to think you had to be into leather to be a leathergirl, but I’ve been learning that it’s more than that. This is a new label for me, and I have a lot of learning to do, but it feels right.

5. What turns you on/off?

I like butch/femme dynamics (my wife is also femme, but we scope out butches together sometimes!), and I like rough sex (particpating/watching). I like smart/geeky people in general. I don’t like violence, particularly against women and animals.