Pink for October
Today we are going to the wedding of one of :MK:’s friends from high school. She’s a very nice girl and I’m happy she’s getting married, but I can’t shake that deep-down bitterness from seeing straight people getting married. Every time I hear about someone my age getting married, they haven’t been together as long as I’ve been with A. And yet, to some extent, I agree with A - having a ceremony feels like it would be somewhat false without any legal backing. We were talking earlier today about wills, and how I have to be explicitly written into her will. We’re lucky that none of our parents would raise a fuss about that, but we still don’t have the automatic transfer of property that straight people do. Weddings just remind me of the inequality I’m living with every day. I am glad for the chance to dress up a little, and I don’t mind going to Richmond, and whatever they’re serving at the reception will be nice…but I’m still just a bit resentful.
2 Responses for "On Being Married"
They probably need wonderful interpreters in Canada.
I’ve been with my husband for three years and after we got married (no ceremony), all of our friends announced that they were getting married as well. I couldn’t help but A) feel like we had started a “trend” (one that no one takes seriously any damn more) and B) laugh my ass off. Our friend Sean is getting married to his fiance — while they are a nice couple and nice people, I can’t shake the feeling that he’s getting married to her to shake his feeling from his ex-girlfriend, who he broke up with about a year ago. It makes me bitter and cynical just the same.
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